I finally understand the point you were trying to make. The "soulless" comment drove the point home. [She had said she considered her Athiest friend soulless, but would never tell him that, so an Athiest shouldn't tell their opinions about Christianity to Christians] It doesn't matter what my intentions were, it doesn't matter if when I said them I thought they were harmless, by just stating my opinion about what I think about specific beliefs, I have been hurtful and offensive, not harmless.
They say that you should never talk about religion or politics when you first meet someone, and this is why. You can't tell what someone thinks just by looking at them, you have to get to know them first to know what effect what you say has. I wish so much I would have just followed this advice instead of having to learn it the hard way. I am ssorry for speaking so carelessly and offending you.
Sad fact of the matter is now our opinions are out in the open, and their are some things that apologies cant undo.
I am so sad that feelings were hurt but I suppose it is better that we be honest and respectful, than be smiling when there is some negative undercurrent going on. I never felt that way about you, but I could tell that you felt that about me, so at least now it is out in the open.
As a way to show respect, I am going to be less relaxd about the housekeeping and stop eating your food. Please realize it is difficult for me, so please understand when I slip up, but I will make a stronger effort.